This trip to Houston was a little different than the last one. At the last one we were nervous and everything turned out as good as could be expected. This time we weren’t nervous and we didn’t feel like it turned out quite as well.
We didn’t get to see her GI doctor since she was stuck in other appointments and we ran out of time and Maggie ran out of patience. We met with the Phys Med doctors who thought she looked great and had no new recommendations for us. In some ways that’s quite an accomplishment. For a long time every doctor we would see would have alaundry list of things for us to do. Now, it’s surprising if they suggest something we’re not already doing.
We also met with her neurologist who is pleased with how she’s doing and while he thinks she’s maybe even a little better than she was, reminds us we are still at significant risk. He reminds us the trials are going well but he can’t really talk about them lest he spoil the research. He mentions a few other potential treatments that are coming down the line. He mentions he’s moving closer to us. All good stuff. But the idea that we’re not out of the woods yet is no fun.
I think a hard part for people to understand is the constant sense of impending tragedy. She’s doing great now – she’s running and jumping. She’s swimming like a champion. Not a champion of swimming, mind you – she doesn’t float and hasn’t quite figured out you’re not supposed to drink the water – but she’s making great strides. She’s gaining wait and muscle. She’s getting stronger. She’s even vocalizing more now. She knows her abcs and 123s. She can’t pronounce all the letters and numbers. But she knows them. It’s obvious.
But at any minute something could change. She could get pneumonia and forget how to walk while she’s laid up. She could get a seizure and forget how to hold things. That’s Rett’s dirty secret – we constantly have to be on the ready. That’s ok, Rett. I’m ready. En Garde.
After a really great and relaxing week spent with family, swimming every day and getting eaten alive by mosquitos, we’re going back to Texas Children’s Hospital in Houston today – the mecca for Rett research. We’re going to see Maggie’s neurologist and gi doctor as well as meet a new physical medical rehabilitation doctor. It’ll be good to check in with them. My parents are coming as well. It’ll be great to spend time with them.
My feelings on this trip are a world apart from where they were 6 months ago after just getting the diagnosis, though.
Then I was determined to go and get some answers. My parents came for much needed emotional support.
Today, I’m not so sure why we need to go. My parents are coming, really just to visit the children’s museum again – we all really liked it when we were here last. They also really liked the restaurant at the aquarium. We’re all excited to go back. But the doctors? I could go either way.
When we met with the doctors six months ago we were positive we would need to come back every 6 months. We would need to check in with the doctors. I think that was because in my lifetime doctors have always been the people who prescribe medicine to fix what ails me. My thoughts 6 months ago were, “maybe when we come back they’ll say, “oh, have you tried this drug? It makes everything better.”” Or maybe I was just scared and thought that checking in again would make sure everything stayed on track.
In some ways it probably has. We’ve worked hard to keep Maggie progressing, allow her to retain her skills, and help her to build on them. I think we both hope the doctors will be impressed. I don’t know why that’s a consideration, but I think if we go in and they think she’s gotten better, we’ll feel like our hard work is really paying off, beyond in the small victories we see every day.
I guess it’ll be nice to get some confirmation that we’re doing the right things, that she’s progressing nicely and that we just have to stay the course. It’d be nicer, though, if there was something they could do to help her.
It’s been a regular struggle to get her to play with other kids. When she was younger, before the regression, she would play near them, but not necessarily with them. And when she started tossing sand out of the sand table, they’d typically find something else to do, lest they be sandblasted. Don’t get me wrong, she loves other kids. She loves watching them play. The apraxia just gets in the way of her actually being able to do what they’re doing.
I mean we can make it look like she’s doing what they’re doing:
Then I watched her participate in a full on screaming competition. One girl screams, the other screams louder and so on and so forth. In public it’s probably not that appropriate, but regardless, I couldn’t be prouder – for so many reasons – she’s vocalizing, appropriately, she’s communicating, she’s listening and responding. All of it, simply great.
And then, visiting Texas, her cousins and her cousin’s cousins, who are so good to her, wouldn’t let her get away with playing alone. She swung on that tire swing for hours. Even when we’d take her off, she’d hit the tire again, telling us in her way “I’m not done with this one just yet”.
Even as some cousins would get up and go do other things, she would swing, smiling and waiting, as other cousins came to replace the ones that left. The constant flow of kids made her so happy. And her happiness is our happiness.
Rett Syndrome has changed my life in so many ways. Before the diagnosis, I was working at Jash, the digital studio that Sarah Silverman, Michael Cera, Reggie Watts, Tim and Eric started along with a bunch of other people I’ve always respected and at various times believed it to be my dream job. I was working with people I liked and respected, running a digital studio, making comedy videos. It had everything. After the diagnosis, I couldn’t imagine anything less important. (No offense to anyone from Jash who might be reading this)
I had called my friend who started a company called Omaze, which runs sweepstakes for once in a lifetime experiences to raise money for charity, thinking I could get something going for one of the Rett charities. A week later he called to see if I wanted to work for him. It fell into my lap and it’s been a great reprieve, in addition to being a perfect fit considering my experience and my hope for what my next steps would be.
He’s also been very generous with the access to the company resources. And after 5 weeks of being there this is the product of that generosity: youtube.com/epiclloyd
Lloyd is a funny comedian who is well known for his Youtube channel Epic Lloyd and better known for his part in Epic Rap Battles (youtube.com/erb). He was among those that were asked to come to the White House to talk/meet with the President about Social Media. He is helping us bring awareness to Rett Syndrome in a very creative and fun way. Since his audience is young and most likely doesn’t know much about Rett, this is going to be very helpful.
It should be noted that this is not suitable for work. But in one fell swoop 1 million more people now know about Rett. And if many of them take part in this auction, we’ll be able to raise a good sum of money for the charity. Lloyd Ahlquist, you are an impressive human and while I said this in every email, it can’t be said enough how grateful I am for your efforts on this. Thank you Lloyd, for you time, your talent and your willingness to bring awareness to our cause. Thank you so very much.